What’s the best advice you’ve been given as a mom?
– When I think about it, I haven’t really been given that many good advice. I had children at a very young age and at that time there were a lot of “important” moms telling me what not to do. But I would tell you to always shower your children with love. Don’t demand too much from them, or yourself. Moral courage and humility are important things to pass on to your child. In another TWWP interview, with Maria Montti, I read some fantastic advice – too good and wise not to be shared once more. It was about giving your children self-confidence and security: “”My” is nothing but ego. And once the ego comes, Wisdom leaves. Only knowledge is left behind. Teach your children to never walk alone in life and on the path to prosperity. teach them to bring others with them too. Love others and make them prosperous too. Spread love and happiness.”
What’s the hardest part of being a mom?
– Being there for all three of them, with their various needs and different ages. I also find it difficult standing up for myself, to be consistent and have routines. I’m impulsive and messy at times, which can affect the family. Then again, it can be really nice to be that sort of mom. I try to enhance and excel in what I do well and leave the rest to my better half.
What are you most afraid of?
– I’m afraid of all sorts of addictive diseases that can shatter families, and that my children won’t feel safe.
When are you at your happiest?
When everyone’s happy and we’re cooking together and dancing in the kitchen.
What do you do for a living and what’s the best/hardest part of your job?
– I work as a blogger, photographer and digital advertiser. Together with my friend Miranda I run a web shop, forgoodluck.se. I do have a lot of jobs, but in a way they sort of carry each other and make my days varied and flexible. It’s quite difficult making time for the things I find boring, such as book keeping and similar paperwork. The greatest part of my job is that I’m allowed to be creative, that I meet a lot of interesting people and that it all moves in a fast pace. I like that.
What would you say if you got to meet your 16-year-old self?
– Leave! Don’t be around people who hurt – raise your gaze and stand up straight. You are fantastic and everything will be alright.
How do you to turn a rough day around?
– I take a swim in the ocean. I use the open-air swimming-bath all year round and the sauna during the colder months of the year.
Tell us about the new house?
– At first, the idea was to live in our previous house until the children moved out. At least that’s what I had in mind when I put a lot of effort into the garden, planning to see it grow over the years, but then my husband really wanted to move into his dream house in Varberg. During a weekend in Italy he told me the house would possibly be for sale later that year and asked me to visit it with him. Well, why not? I’ve always been very impulsive. We went there on a Tuesday and the next Saturday we were contacted by the owners, telling us they accepted our offer. Great fun! We moved in during fall 2015. With some paint and new wallpapers we turned the house into our own and we haven’t looked back since.
You have a blog at elledecoration.se. What’s it like maintaining a blog every day? – I’ve been blogging since 2008 and see it as a way of living. It’s part of my daily routines and I create my posts really quickly. Naturally, the blogging can sometimes take up some time, but only if I feel I have time for it. At first I kept the writing more private, but as the blog grew into a source of work my expression went from private to personal. I don’t keep secrets but my readers aren’t aware of my everyday troubles. The blog is my “happy place” where I share things that inspire me and make me feel good. Hopefully, I inspire others to enhance what’s good and joyful in life and to cherish the everyday gems. I have my blog to thank for where I’m at today. So yes, you really could say it has changed my life.
What are your thoughts on how you’ve chosen to decorate your house? – We’ve kept the nuance more or less the same throughout the whole house. Pretty soft but in the colours blue and green. We’ve mixed wallpapers with paint on the walls and been creative with the hanging of paintings in two of the rooms, where the walls are covered in photos and illustrations made by me and my friends. Since I love plants there are a lot of them in each room. Before buying something new we try to find what we’re looking for in vintage shops, which I find healthy both for the environment and wallet. Your home should be lovely and easy to live, play and hang out in.
Who were you at school? – I was very insecure but probably perceived as cool. I was someone people wanted to hang out with. I texted a friend earlier to find out what she used to think of me. She said: “Thinking on my feet, you were the one all the guys wanted to date but weren’t allowed to, and the one all the girls wanted to hang out with.” Hahaha, adolescene. I was so unhappy… I had bleached hair, wore the right clothes, hung out in the smoking area and dated older guys. I didn’t really bother with school. In other words, I was completely lost in space. I loved primary school thanks to our fantastic teacher, Elisabeth, but after that I felt lost and weird, trying to fit in.
What’s your favourite thing to do on a Saturday off? – We eat breakfast together for a long tine. My middle son and I have started joining my husband for mountain bike rides, we love going for one and a half hour rides after breakfast while the others are busy doing something else. After that we go down to the beach for some surfing and hanging out with other families. Sometimes we have an early dinner together at a restaurant and then ride the bikes back home to our greenhouse, where we have ice cream and the kids fall asleep in our lap or on the daybed in the flickering light.
How do you keep the love alive? – You need to give each other the time to nurture your own interests. Say yes more than no and try to laugh a lot. Always putting toothpaste on each other’s toothbrushes is a sweet thing to do. Every now and then, go away for the weekend or spend one at home. Get a babysitter for two days and then eat a lot of tasty food, play Backgammon and go for walks.
What’s your favourite spot? – Varberg, of course. Because of the ocean, the people and the creative way of living.
The best of Varberg
• Bathe and take a sauna at the open-air swimming-bath.
• Buy some cardamom buns at the coastal bakery.
• Go surfing in Apelviken. (Suitable for all generations, from beginners to the more skilled.)
• Make reservations at John’s Place or Hus 13.
• Stay the night at Varbergs Stadshotell & Asia Spa and make sure to enjoy the lovely spa.
What do you dream of at the moment? – Superficially, I dream about traveling and visiting places I’d like to experience. I’d like to go on a surfing trip together with my 17-year-old and his girlfriend. I also dream of reaching every day harmony, evolving as a surfer and that my children will grow up in a kinder world.
Where do you see yourself in five years ? – I’m still working with something creative that I’m passionate about, but I have more time to take care of my family and myself. And I’m spending more time with friends. Perhaps I’m using my easel and brushes more often. I’m surfing and doing a lot of yoga. Hopefully the whole family shares a passion for surfing, planning our holidays and weekends around our big interest.